Remind yourself that it takes time to adjust to a new situation. Also, if you are somewhat older than most college students, take it easy and give yourself extra time (Sam, 2001).
Remember your strengths. Studies have shown that your American classmates, professors, and college staff usually are aware of and respect your strengths. International students are:
· learning about a new culture and trying new things
· determined to learn and succeed and are expending considerable financial resources and personal efforts in order to obtain high-quality education in a foreign country
· having the ability to speak multiple languages
· performing equally or better than American college students despite language and cultural barriers.
· brave and independent
· open-minded and world-minded (Spencer-Rodgers, 2001: Ryan & Twibell, 2000).
Try to be realistic about your English ability. Keep in mind that you have passed TOEFEL and maybe other English exams prior to coming to the US. If you think that you need to learn more conversational English and social manners (turn-taking rules, using expressions such as “Thank you” and “I will appreciate it”), you may try to expose yourself to more social situations such as going to sport events and parties. Watching TV is a good (although passive) way of acquiring such knowledge.
Take risks and speak in class in order to overcome the nervousness. Start with small steps, such as asking the professor questions after class or asking short and well-defined questions in class. Once your nervousness diminishes, you can take bigger risks. The more you speak up, the easier it will get. Also, it is likely that you will receive complements and attention from others that will make you even more comfortable.
Reach out to American students and try to make them more aware of your culture. You may bring a traditional dish to class or wear traditional clothing. The more familiar they are with your culture, the more comfortable they will be with you. Also, this way you can keep more in touch with your own culture. Accept friendly hands from American acquaintances.
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Talk to other international students. There are several